The older I get.. The more experienced in life I become, the more I am continually amazed at just how important associations with people can be. Then, I remember how scary your associations can become. Sometimes I would like to forget some of my less-than-stellar associations.
When you think about it though, how many people have touched your life in some fashion? Then, to boggle your mind, how many lives have you touched?
In my life, my associations with people are thanks to my
big mouth welcoming and open personality. I have managed to make friends(and frenemies, and of course, enemies) everywhere I go. Some people have come into my world like a hurricane and turned it upside-down, whether for better or worse, and then disappeared, just as swiftly (and vice versa!). Some have remained in my life, like the coffee stain you just can’t wash out of your best dress shirt. Just kidding. My best dress shirt would never have a stain on it.
What I mean to say at the end of all this, is that there have been times that a random association that I would never think twice about, somehow would turn into an opportunity, or a point of contention, or even a point of conversation. Examples are to follow:
1. at my first “real” job (corporate, 9-5, benefits, coffee room), in a call centre, I managed somehow to, after 3 years, keep in touch with one of my clients, based solely on the fact that my
big mouth welcoming personality ensured I stood out to my client. She got in touch with me when I was down in a rut looking for a job, not once, but twice, and literally helped me turn my career around.
2. throughout elementary, middle and high school, I was a social butterfly, befriending everyone from the coolest of the cool, to the nerdiest of the pack. Somehow, I managed to fit into each of those groups at will. I had a lot of best friends; I am inherently a caring person and if you have a problem, I will sit with you through the night if you need a shoulder to cry on. Fast forward to present where due to my multiple friendships, I can now carry conversations about .. just about anything. People bring up old classmates, and guaranteed I will have known/hung out with/been best friends with someone mentioned.
3. I blogged a lot in my youth and made a lot of virtual friends, who have in turn, taken care of me while I traveled the world. Whether it was taking me out during my one night in Singapore, or bringing me to the coolest speak easy in NYC, or even how to have a proper rum and coke (hint: one hand has a bottle of Jack Daniels, and the other has a bottle of coke) in Tennessee, I’ve been so lucky to have made friends with people who have expanded my experiences on Earth.
There are countless other *perchance* happenings due to random (or so I think) associations, but it just goes to show that if you really want to experience life, and all it has to offer, you really have to open yourself up to the opportunity. Opportunities are always around you, it’s just up to you to open your mind up to actually see them.
After all’s said and done, my big mouth really has helped me out throughout the years.